Monday, September 12, 2016
Liar, Liar Pants On Fire!
The truth hurts. Lies hurt even more. So why is it easier to tell a lie than it is the truth? And why is it easier to believe a lie than it is the truth?
It's been my understanding and experience that lies are negative, hurtful, and destructive. Whereas the truth, when spoken with a heart of love, while sometimes painful, is actually beneficial and often a source of relief for those who speak and receive truth.
Truth, in its definition is that which is true or in accordance with fact or reality. Yet it seems to be much more acceptable, these days, to spout lies. A lot of them.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not perfect. For years, I used to make a career of lying, manipulating, and controlling.
I lied so much that I had to stack lies in order to cover up the previous lies I forgot I told. My life was a train wreck, my heart was as black as coal and cold as ice. I was a good liar. The greatest oxymoron.
So when did the line between truth and lying become so blurred? When did it become permissible to lie through our teeth instead of 'tell no lies'?
I'd honestly like to know. The person I was, a liar, had no integrity. There wasn't an ounce of honesty, humility, or sincerity. I lied to get ahead, ridicule others, and cover up my mistakes.
It was a horrible cycle and my own soul suffered for it. There was a point when I believed that there was no way I could change my ways.
I had gone too far. Pushed the limits and gone past the point of no return too many times. I was hooped, or so I thought.
However, nine and a half years ago I met God face to face and my lying ways stopped, my record expunged and I was set free.
In God, I gained a new lease on life and I didn't look back. My years of lying, manipulation and control were over and I became a woman who wouldn't compromise telling the truth for anything.
My heart filled with a great desire to be a woman of integrity, character, and humility. Now I live each day striving to be that woman, more and more.
Like I said before, I'm not perfect and I am prone to make mistakes but my relationship with Jesus compels me to be humble enough to own my mistakes and be truthful about my imperfections and mess ups.
Being truthful, whether to myself or others in a spirit of love, has brought incredible freedom and a peace I've never before experienced. Those kinds of highs I can handle!
Though the truth may hurt sometimes, I won't shatter when being told the truth by others and I won't shy away from speaking the truth, in love, to someone.
Truth is good. VERY good. Lies are not and as much as we may think they won't catch up with us, they will. They always will. I can attest to that.
So, own up to the lies and make a decision, today, to speak truth because it will set you free and it will set you up for success and set you apart from a world that appears to accept lies more readily than the truth.
Nowadays, I have a zero tolerance for lying. Whether in relationships, business or otherwise. For me, lying is a deal breaker. Always will be.
How do you feel about lying? Is it a deal breaker for you too? I'd like to hear from you! Let's talk!